5 Do’s and Don’ts that will Change Your Mental/Emotional Future
What are you so worried about? What are you afraid of?
Anxiety is the number one mental health issue among adults. It can be expensive, debilitating, and keep you from the Fully Alive life that Jesus came to give each one of us.
If fear and anxiety has been your way of life, you know how hard it can be to break free. It feels as though your thoughts and emotions are controlling you instead of you controlling your thoughts and emotions.
Thank God there is a way out! “For God has not given us a spirit of fear, but of power and of love and of a sound mind.” (1 Timothy 1:7)
But how do you get there?
I’ve walked the journey out of fear and anxiety to a life of true joy and fulfillment. And I want to share with you a prescription that I know will work for you too, a prescription that’s backed up by both medical science and God’s Word.
In this five-part prescription, you’ll discover the relatively simple steps you can take to dramatically improve your mental/emotional well being and find lasting freedom. These steps are not complicated, but they do demand your intentional effort. They may not always be easy. This is not a one-time fix. Like most prescriptions, this one reads “Take One Daily.”
1 - Don't Neglect Your Physical Health
How you care for your physical body significantly affects your psychological well being.
Make Your Lifestyle Work FOR You
Make sure you’re supplying your brain with the raw materials it needs to function at its best. Your mind and your body do best with a diet of primarily unprocessed food built largely around lean protein, fruits and vegetables, with some healthy fats and whole grains on the side. And your brain needs water – lots of it.
You know what a good run or adequate sleep can do for your anxiety level. Think you don’t have time to get enough rest or physical exercise? You don’t have time not to! Your body and your brain need both periods of rest and periods of exercise. Make your goal 30 minutes of exercise most days and 7+ hours of sleep most nights.
And if you haven’t had a medical evaluation recently, get one. If you’re taking any medications, drugs, or supplements, review the ENTIRE list with your doctor or pharmacist for any that might be making your anxiety worse, and any that you might be able to decrease or eliminate.
Optimizing your physical health will help optimize your emotional health.
2 - Don't Let Your Mind Happen to You
Thoughts and feelings seem so subjective. You feel what you feel. Life is difficult.
Perhaps you grew up in a seriously dysfunctional family. Perhaps you have physical health problems, your finances are a mess, or your marriage is in shambles. You’re lonely, overwhelmed, and don’t know what to do. Besides all that, there are very dangerous things going on in our nation, our culture, and our world. Who wouldn’t feel anxious and afraid as a result?
But regardless of your circumstances, you have much more ability to choose your thoughts and feelings than you realize. You can choose thoughts full of bitterness, negativity, entitlement, powerlessness, and the past. Or you can focus your thoughts on what is true, on gratitude, on what you can do, on helping others, and on God.
This is not “mind over matter.” But most of us attribute too little power to our thoughts rather than too much.
Instead, Take your Thoughts Captive
Paul gave us the clearest Biblical prescription for our thinking. We are to focus our thoughts on what is true, honest, just, pure, lovely, and of a good report. (Philippians 4:8) We are to bring “every thought into captivity to the obedience of Christ.” (2 Corinthians 10:5)
The way in which you think about your very real problems is what makes the difference.
- If you’ve lost your job, be grateful you still have your health so you can look for another, nurture your connection with family and friends, and focus on finding or creating work you love.
- If your lifestyle has contributed to your poor health, focus on some new habits that will improve your health, and cooperate with your doctors while you continue to pray for healing.
- If your marriage is in trouble, find out how to forgive in a healthy way, become a safe & inviting person for your spouse to be close to, and fight FOR your marriage in every way you can.
Choosing your thoughts will help you change your actions, and that – over time – will change your feelings.
3 - Don't Worry About the Enemy
Can you imagine Peter, John, or Paul wringing their hands or losing one minute of sleep worrying about what the devil might be doing?
Yes, we have an enemy that is more violent, more determined, and smarter than any ISIS terrorist or multi-drug-resistant superbug bacteria. But he is a defeated foe. You and I don’t have to go out and fight to defeat the devil; Jesus already did that – and won!
You will never live in victory if you come against Satan from a position of fear and anxiety.
“Instead, Submit yourself to God, Resist the Enemy & he will flee…” (James 4:7)
There’s a huge difference between awareness and worry, between resistance and fear.
Jesus did not go around looking for “a devil behind every bush,” but when evil did show up He faced it with calmness and complete authority.
That’s how you and I are to relate to evil as well.
Peter didn’t start out unafraid. Imagine how controlled by fear Peter was on the night he denied Jesus. And yet only a few weeks later he was standing before the Sanhedrin completely unfazed by their threats and punishments. (Acts 4:13)
Peter got to that place of fearlessness by spending time with Jesus, seeing Him alive, and being filled with the Holy Spirit. And that’s how you will get there too.
4 - Don't Fling Around Spiritual Weapons
In the cosmic battle of the universe, spiritual warfare is not about who is stronger – God or Satan. If it were, this war would have been over a long time ago!
The real issue is this war is your heart. In the end, who you will believe? Who will you obey? Who will you respect, listen to, honor, worship, and love? It’s your heart both the enemy and God are after.
Instead, Focus On Your Mission
Jesus came to Earth “to seek and to save that which was lost.” (Luke 19:10) Nothing – not even Satan himself – could move Jesus from following His mission. In doing so Jesus defeated the devil, but He always remained focused on His purpose of seeking and saving the lost.
You have a mission also. There’s something God has been developing in your heart that the world needs. However small you feel, however messed up you may have been, your very brokenness is what God will turn into food by which others are fed.
Remember, it’s not your job to defeat the enemy. Jesus already did that.
Your job is to allow God to transform you to become increasingly like His Son Jesus, and along the way to make a difference for others of His children who are still in this world. As long as you’re alive, there’s something God has for you to do.
Your mission always has something to do with extending the transforming power of God’s love to someone – or many someones – in need. Who is God placing in your path for you to be a blessing to?
Focus on your mission, and you’ll have much less energy left over for fear and worry.
5 - Don't Give Up
You might wish that one battle against fear and anxiety would lead to freedom forever. And if it doesn’t, you will be tempted to give up.
But like most prescriptions you get from your doctor, remember that this prescription reads “Take One Daily.” You can experience lasting joy and freedom, but that will require continuing action on your part.
Our spiritual lives will go through seasons of lesser or greater intensity in warfare, but it’s the little things you and I do every day that truly make a lasting difference.
Caring for your physical body and lifestyle, keeping control of your thoughts, spending time with Jesus, and remaining focused on your mission are practices to be continued daily.
Opposition from the enemy and the “stuff” of living in our still-sinful world will always provide plenty of reason to get upset. But your daily prescription will keep you on track – just like Peter, Paul, and the others who learned from Jesus when he was here on Earth.
Instead, Stand Firm
The best picture of spiritual warfare is standing:
“Therefore put on the full armor of God, so that when the day of evil comes, you may be able to stand your ground, and after you have done everything, to stand. Stand firm then...” (Ephesians 6:13–14, NIV)
There will be certain things you do along the way, such as guarding your heart and mind, sticking close to other believers, and speaking words of truth out loud. But most important and underlying all your activity is your position of standing firm.
Your very existence as an overcoming believer is proof that the enemy has been defeated. There’s no white-knuckling good behavior or flurry of religious activity. You simply take your stand on God’s side and refuse to let anything else move you. (Acts 20:24)
May you take your daily prescription, and stand firm in the sound mind God has made available for you.
- What you give credit to, you give life to
- What you talk about grows larger with every word
- What you give attention to, you give energy to
- What you focus on, you Energize with every breath
- Whatever you surrender to, you become
- What you trust in, you will follow
- The image inside you determines your outside success
- How you see yourself will determine how others see you
- Your thinking process forms your life as you know it NOW
- You are what you think and will possess more of tomorrow
- Your words create life or death and release a spiritual force
- You create our environment by our words (peace or turmoil)
- Sight is created by Sound (take another look at Creation)
- You attract what you believe and more will be added
- I am a vessel, designed to pour out my contents (what does my life contain?)
- Perception gives birth to profession and conception become a reality
Whatever is in your heart (mind/thoughts) will eventually come out – and you will create more of the same!
-Pastor David Bohannon